3 Ways to Stop Worrying About Likes, Comments, Followers and Shares

Ah, social media. There are so many lovely things about it - connecting with like-minded people, making new friends, feeling plugged into the world, sharing your thoughts and emotions. But when no one responds to your posts, you can feel like you’re the last person to be picked for games at school - lonely, unpopular and as though nobody cares about you. 

Here are 3 strategies/things to remember so you can stop worrying about likes, comments, followers and shares.

1. Remember That Your Self-Worth Shouldn’t Be Tied to Them

15 years ago, this wouldn’t have been an issue. Before social media, we worried about real-life interactions with friends and family; now, we value ourselves according to how much people engage with our posts. But your gravestone won’t read ‘Here Lies Someone Who Went Viral a Lot’. People will remember you for your kindness, your thoughtfulness and your courage, not for how many people clicked a button under your posts.

2. Don’t Read Too Much Into the Lack of Response

There might be a very good reason why your friends and followers haven’t responded to your post. Maybe you’ve posted at a time when most people aren’t online - say, when they’re travelling home from work - or maybe Facebook’s algorithms just haven’t shown your post to many people. At the very worst, your post just won’t have resonated with your followers or friends - but that’s not a disaster. Maybe the next one will, or the one after that.

3. Don’t Compare Yourself to People with More Followers

There have been so many times when I’ve seen someone tweet something amazing, but because they only had 50 followers, the tweet didn’t do anything. If that tweet had been posted by someone with a million followers, it would have set Twitter on fire. Don’t compare yourself to people who have many more followers, and remember that if your tweet doesn’t receive a response, the reason isn’t usually that it’s not worth responding to.


  1. I don’t seem to have sleepless nights about this. I have never really cared what people think of me. It may be a curse not a blessing.

    1. Ha ha, my dream (nightmare) last night featured lots of nasty comments! Freud would have a lot to say about that.

  2. I have a policy of never commenting on anything.

  3. I must confess, I am a shameless sucker for comments, likes and new readers.

    1. Ha ha, me too! It's nothing to be ashamed of - it just means you like engaging with people. It's only when it starts getting us down that it becomes a problem.


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